Tuesday, December 05, 2006

Who's YOUR Blog Crush?

On Sunday evening, I stopped by a mother-daughter book club to join their discussion of The Not-So-Star-Spangled Life of Sunita Sen. The mothers and several of the seventh-grade daughters asked literary questions about my writing process, etc., but then one of the girls asked if Michael liked Sunita as much as she liked him and whether or not they ever got together after the book ended. As I answered, I noticed the shift in body language around the circle; mothers and daughters alike were all really interested in my answer.

I drove home ruminating on the intensity of infatuation and the emo poetry it has the capacity to generate. These days, the only time middle-school-crush-like feelings might rise to the surface would be if I googled or technoratied myself or my books and discovered a mention on that oh-so-wonderful site or blog. Before the word "pathetic" comes to mind, consider this quote from Isaac Asimov:
From my close observation of writers...they fall into two groups: 1) those who bleed copiously and visibly at any bad review, and 2) those who bleed copiously and secretly at any bad review.
Imagine then the reverse situation and the euphoria that comes with a positive word. So, here's my question: which blog has the potential to make your heart beat a bit faster were it to mention your name, blog, or book? Stick to blogs only, please, as most of us lust after the likes of NYT, USA Today, and O Magazine.

42 comments:

  1. Read Roger. He's so witty. But if he makes fun of me for admitting this, does that mean he likes me? What if I pass him in the hallway and he doesn't say hello?

    Junior high school. How I long to return there.

    Not.

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  2. Oh boy. I guess a nice mention in any one of the great kids' lit bogs that I read every day would make me feel great. Of course, we all long for approval by RS, as mentioned above.

    And, also like the mention of junior HS by chicken spaghetti, as well, I am almost afraid to talk about reviews, because the fear of bad ones is too daunting. I used to be afraid to admit I liked a certain boy in seventh grade and he was afraid to admit he liked me. So we were brutally rotten to each other for two years.

    But, gee, we ended up getting married. So maybe I can even dare to dream....

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  3. CS, thanks for being honest. The passageways in cyberspace are much less intimidating than the locker-lined hallways of junior high.

    And Barbjn, you are the exception that proves the rule. My junior high crush, then a red-headed Irish paper boy and star of the baseball team, is now a partying DJ who still lives in my parent's town.

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  4. Well, I'm getting tons of hits and return lurkers on this post, but other than Susan and Pooja, nobody's got guts. I guess I'll have to take the plunge. Okay, here are the blogs I'd LOVE to be noticed by: Popmatters (9,817 links from 2,096 blogs), Anastasia Goodstein's Ypulse, from whom I originally got the concept of a "blog crush," Fuse Number 8 (who doesn't realize yet how powerful a kid lit guru she has become but my stats tell the story when she whispers my name), and the Blog of a Bookslut. C'mon, it's your turn -- pretend this is a cyber pajama party with lots of M and Ms to pass around.

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  5. There's a bit of the slut in me, I guess, because I get excited whenever my name is mentioned, especially if it's the first time a blog mentions me.

    That said... I'd go with both Read Roger & Bookslut; and I had a kindasortamaybe mention on YPulse. What was actually mentioned was the library blog I contribute to Pop Goes The Libray, specifically its founder, Sophie; so it's more like, hey, my best friend got asked to prom by someone on the A list!

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  6. I'm like Miz Liz. I get a little bit excited whenever anyone mentions or links to me. However, I'd really like it if one of my favorite (living) authors left a comment on my blog. But the ones I'm really in awe of are probbly too old to notice blogs.

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  7. My blog crushes would be mostly out of the book blogs as I have this notion that I can get some cross-overs from the mommy and the humor bloggers. That said, I'd love a mention in Suburban Turmoil and would faint if I were noted in Dooce. I've reached two of my other high points with a link from Defective Yeti for supporting the literary political signs contest and a link from the website of my favorite author/illustrator, Mo Willems. Overall, I'm attention hungry, and am pretty darn happy when I get a mention anywhere. Even more happy when I make the blogroll. I'm still waiting for that honor from some of my, ahem, blogfriends.

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  8. OK, I'll take the plunge. I'd have to say Fuse #8. She's definitely one of the cool girls, not to mention smart and funny. I'm so excited to have an opportunity to work with her on the Cybils. But now that she knows, maybe she'll never talk to me again. ;-) I'd also include Oz and Ends among my blog crushes, because he's so smart and makes the most interesting and thought provoking posts.

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  9. I feel wimpy. And I was supposed to have been empowered after that great poem by Maya Angelou.

    But it's kind of like not telling a wish, because then it won't come true, no? So if I admit I especially long for a good mention by xxxx xxxx or xxxx x, won't it jinx it?

    And then there is Miss Snark who doesn't even live in the world of Kids' Lit. Man, THAT is a crush. And I am straight.

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  10. I'd have to say Read Roger, for my part. But Eisha and I decided that we say "dude" too much in our reviews, despite initially setting out to sound more professional, for him to even notice us, I'm sure. Dude, I can't help it; it just slips out sometimes.

    And I'm sure I'll sound like the class geek, but -- truly and honestly -- if Big A little a or Fuse #8 or Chicken Spaghetti or Motherreader or any of the other child-lit bloggers whom I admire and whose blogs I frequent mention us, I'm thrilled. I'm not really easy; I just think they're all talented (and others I don't have time to name).

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  11. Now we're getting somewhere, my pretties. Weigh in, even if your objects of cyber infatuation have already been mentioned above, and I will compile, I promise ...

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  12. Anonymous5:02 PM

    Aww, thanks Jules :)

    Crazily enough, I feel I know most of you kidlit folk, even if in a virtual world. I *heart* all of you--I've moved beyond the crush level here.

    My blog crushes are so afield, I doubt they'd even notice the kidlit world. They include Bitch PhD, Phantom Scribbler, and the folks behind Rate Your Students. Daily reads that keep me sane :)

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  13. You read Bitch Ph D, too? I love that blog!

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  14. Anonymous6:11 PM

    I am so uncool that I don't even have a blogger account, but since I'm anti-lurking I'll be brave.

    I would do happy kitchen dances if I were mentioned in ANYONE's blog, because I am the ultimate needy writer. So needy that I almost used a fake name for when my first book comes out in May because I am that fearful of reviews.

    That said... I would love to be positively mentioned by Fuse 8, Book Slut, John Green, Bitch PhD, Brent Hartinger, and, of course, Mitali.

    Oh. I need to go hide now.

    -Carrie Jones

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  15. I have to mention Cynsations; Cynthia Leitich Smith's blog was the first Big Blog that mentioned mine, and when it happened I was WOW. I was a total newbie, didn't have a statcounter, didn't track via bloglines or technorati, and it just blew me away... not only was someone actually reading my blog, that someone was Cynthia Leitich Smith!! Not only that, it made me feel so welcome and it was an encouragment to keep blogging.

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  16. Anonymous9:36 PM

    After looking at all the great suggestions that have already been made, I decided to go for broke and dream of a Sunday special in Unshelved. Hey, a writer's gotta dream.

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  17. Anonymous10:39 PM

    Liz: You and I have similar tastes, I've noticed before :)

    And, yes, Cynthia was one of the first to reach out to me too as a new blogger. Camille at Bookmoot was the other. I'll be eternally grateful to both (nearly 2 years on!)

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  18. Anonymous5:45 AM

    Actually my blog (no published book yet)was mentioned on fusenumber8 after an interview on School Library Journal's blog. I was wowed by the offer of the interview, the comment and the response! Thanks, Amy and fusenumber8.

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  19. Dudes, I mean Jules and Eisha, y'all rock. And so do ALL the kid-lit bloggers!

    At the risk of sounding promiscuous, I'll admit to crushes on GalleyCat's Ron Hogan and About Last Night's Terry Teachout, both of whom have been kind enough to mention CS. But my HUGE literary crush is the poet Mark Doty. As far as I know, he doesn't have a blog, though, and the chances of his putting me in a poem are, well, slim, given that we've never met. I did see him read, however.

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  20. Anonymous9:49 AM

    Oh! I have to add one more: writing as jo(e). She's a writing prof. who writes mostly about life, teaching, children. She writes so beautifully.

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  21. I like where J.L. Bell's head is at. Unshelved would quite a "get". Otherwise, I have to admit that I sometimes look longingly at Bookninja, Maud Newton, Galleycat, and Bookslut. Not that I don't check my Technorati fanatically every other hour to see if any of the children's bloggers link to me. I adore you guys.

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  22. Anonymous11:36 AM

    I'm going to be very boring and tell you that I don't have a Blog crush. I did have one a while ago, but it's since been resolved.

    To be perfectly honest, I'm just delighted to know that anyone bothers to read my reviews and random ramblings !

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  23. Here's our current compilation of crushes so far ... I'll keep adding to the list as people keep 'fessing up.

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  24. Anonymous1:14 PM

    Laughing. Er, Kelly, in my previous life I used to manage the children's department of a Big Box Bookstore. I totally lurk on kidslit blogs, but have never felt cool enough to comment.

    So. Thanks! And right back at ya!

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  25. Lets see. How to sum this up? Before I was published I thought having a book in a store would make me feel like I existed. A year later it is the mere whiff of mention on ANYONE'S blog that answers my existential quest. In no particular order - FUSE8, BOOK BUDS, GOTTABOOK, BOOK MOOT - my crushes are scattered among you.

    Of course, new crushes are born every day - and Google helps me find them!

    alan

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  26. Definitely no need to be cool to comment on kidlit blogs. I am the essence of uncool (according to my teenagers) and I comment frequently. On a side note, Phantom Scribbler's blog has been nominated as one of the top ten parenting blogs in the 2006 Weblog Awards. Browse through the rest of the finalists in several different categories here (alas, no category of children's literature blogs or even litblogs in sight).

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  27. Anonymous3:24 PM

    Hi Mitali -

    BIG FAN of yours! I have a multi-cultural children's book blog that a group of us are writing on.

    My author blog crushes - Fireescape, Broken Tusk, Pooja's..

    Fellow moms who are kidlit bloggers - Mother Reader

    I found last week that my blog Saffron Tree has been listed on Kelly's Kidlit, and my heart did beat faster...!! :-)

    Being a newbie, I think any blog that lists Saffrontree listed can get me totally excited!!!

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  28. Praba, I am so glad you posted here. I just wanted to let you know how much I LOVE YOUR BLOG. I'll be sure to post a link to it on my website soon. Look out for it!

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  29. Anonymous6:36 PM

    That's so funny, Phantom :)

    And you're welcome, Praba!

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  30. Wow, just found this. Funny! I've been slacking on the reading of blogs lately.

    I would say Fuse #8 for all the reasons said above, and the lovely DiscoMermaids, because they're so darn funny.

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  31. Anonymous12:17 AM

    Like many of the above, I go all atwitter when anyone mentions me. Some days, I check my stats and say, "why the hell are all you people visiting me?" and some days I say "why doesn't anybody leave me comments." So it's a bit of a bipolar existance, my blogdom.

    But then, a little mention from motherreader, or seeing Little Willow dive in to help build one of my crazy contest lists, and all is well.

    Who would I love to have mention me, or leave comments? Anyone who is reading this comment right now.

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  32. This was me:

    I'm going to be very boring and tell you that I don't have a Blog crush. I did have one a while ago, but it's since been resolved.

    To be perfectly honest, I'm just delighted to know that anyone bothers to read my reviews and random ramblings !


    I've no idea why it came out as anonymous though !

    Michele, Scholar's Blog

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  33. I came out as anonymous too! (Nancy, journey-woman.blogspot.com)

    Like many of the above, I go all atwitter when anyone mentions me. Some days, I check my stats and say, "why the hell are all you people visiting me?" and some days I say "why doesn't anybody leave me comments." So it's a bit of a bipolar existance, my blogdom.

    But then, a little mention from motherreader, or seeing Little Willow dive in to help build one of my crazy contest lists, and all is well.

    Who would I love to have mention me, or leave comments? Anyone who is reading this comment right now.

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  34. Thanks, Praba, I love the look of Saffrontree. Keep up the great work.

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  35. I really never thought about this, but my heart truly skipped a beat when Jen Robinson mentioned my non-kids lit blog on her Book Page while referring to my reviews on Book Buds Kidlit.

    And I'd be honored if the fabulous mommy blogger Halushki mentioned me or my great gal pal Profgrrrrl.

    Ilene

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  36. I like Fin.

    She writes stories.

    http://f-i-n.diaryland.com

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